I HAVE A DREAM

When we hear about children who fulfilled their parent's dreams we praise them.But have we ever thought what happend to those children's dreams?Every children have their own dreams but most of the parents manipulate them according to their ideas.The child may be a natural in music but the parent may force him/her to become an engineer which they think is "more secure and profitable".In the most important years of life,children will be forced to learn things in which they are not comfortable.This is the greatest wastage of human resources one can think of.
Every child have abilities and aptitudes which can be identified since childhood.If someone pursue his/her career based on these two criteria, success both at the level of financial and satisfaction will come even if it takes some time.But when parents think too much about "what if my kid does not make it'?,and work out the back up plans first,the chances for the kid to fulfill the actual dream is nil.The parents take the kid's victory as their pride and the failure as their shame.So for the sake of family pride, people pursue things in which they may not be good at.The animals and plants are luckier than Homo sapiens here because nobody try to make a deer into a lion.
In a Reader's Digest article,Jacquelyn Mitchard asks:Why to teach kids to ignore their instincts?The parent's role is to help and support the children to make right decisions.This will happen only when both share a close relationship where open communication is apreciated.If parents want their children to succeed in life,there is only one way;allow them to do what they know best irrespective of your ideas.After all ,nobody have a right to dream for others.Reserve your dreams for yourself not for your kids.You are just an instrument to bring a new life to this world.The child is an independent entity with brain and passion which will fully bloom in due course of time.
In a rock concert recently,I was alarmed at the amount of display of violence by the young audience whenever they hear heavy metal songs.They seemed to be angry at people who did not allow them to follow their dream.
The best plan is your original plan and if you plan well you are going to make it sooner or later without back up plans...grab it and give it a full shot....success will come your way.....
So dear parents,have patience;observe your kids and help them when needed.Help them to make good decisions and be independent..They are not your reflections...........
LET THERE BE LIGHT